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@strike I’m very sorry about your sister

I don’t think that being financially dependent has to be a bad thing if both partners go about it the right way. I’ve only been dependent on OH for money for a comparatively short time but I have my own pension and savings etc because this seems like the sensible option. I will be working again soon, all being well but I will never come anywhere close to earning what OH earns and he’s not the sort to eat out at fancy restaurants and leave me at home with a cheese sandwich. We are a team in every way. I also deal with all our finances as OH isn’t interested.

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@nasty-woman I wonder how many men there are out there who want Victorian type women given to fainting at every opportunity? I couldn’t stand a man like that. I want to be supported and treated as an equal (even if I am different e.g. better driver, less able to pick up 40kg sacks, better at mental arithmetic, worse at cooking or whatever) and the idea of a man who is so insecure that I have to be, or more likely pretend to be, useless appalls me. I am not single but I would be if those sort of men were the only ones available, ha ha

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Are we defining independence mostly as a financial thing?

@sammy No, I don’t think that being independent means being financially independent although of course it does not preclude it I’m afraid that I don’t like the term ‘fiercely independent’ as I don’t think one has to be fierce unless under attack.

We all like to be needed, men included. I think a lot of men measure their own self worth by being high earners, fixing things, being the physically stronger one. So an independent woman who isn’t looking for that in her partner confuses, bewilders and unintentionally undermines them.

@sar Not all men I promise you! Some men are secure in themselves and don’t need a weak partner to bolster their ego. Being wanted is good but being needy is not so good

[soccerballz @soccerballz Participant]

Surely the issue is men not being able to read the situation.

When I meet a group of people, I’ll kiss some of the women and not others, I’ll shake hands with some of the men and not others.

It’s down to reading body language and making eye contact.

The issue is people are losing this art very quickly. I blame mobile phones. People who grew up in the 60s and 70s are a lot more understanding of this.

We are living in a very black and white polarised world now, I blame the internet, you’re either right or wrong, a sexual predator or a feminist. There is no inbetween on the Internet.

It’ll all go full circle at some point.

[soccerballz @soccerballz Participant]

I’m suffering again and also in my right heel. It gets you down doesn’t it? Mine went away for a few weeks after I’d been in hospital for an operation and was only doing very light exercise. As soon as I went back to my normal routine it came back. I think I might go to a physio because I’m not managing to get on top of it by myself despite using orthotics and stretching it and also rolling it over an iced bottle. Good luck with yours OP. If you do find a cure please let me know!

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Last time I drove a van, people tried to help me reverse park it too.

It might not be a fair comparison, though, I really am shit at parking HEHE!

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