“Flirting is not a crime” says French actor Catherine Deneuve, “but rape is”.
She and 100 female French writers,performers and academics have hit out at the “wave of Puritanism” which has been sparked by the Harvey Weinstein allegations, saying that men should be free to try and seduce women, and “hit on them”. Men “are being punished summarily, forced out of their jobs when all they did was touch someone’s knee or try to steal a kiss”.
Part of the issue not the initial move, be that a peck on the cheek or what, it’s the response and understanding after.
If the person recoils/ pushes you away/ acts in any way uncomfortable you step back apologies and explain yourself before excusing yourself and finding yourself a hole you can crawl into to hide your embarrassment. This goes for both men and women in my opinion.