My ex partner told me I emasculate men, I was too capable and too independent. What he meant was he was a failed man, he was am alcoholic, who couldnt get his act together to even do the basic stuff, so I renovated the house, I sorted electrics, I built up the business and I coped easily without him for 18 months while he had a cushy contract abroad, and an affair. I was the one who was told I was too independent. It stuck with me, that feeling that I was somehow at fault, but finally i can now say its him who has the problem. Not me, hes an excuse of a man, and any man who cannot cope with an independent woman is actually a very insecure in themselves. he was clearly a narcissist, and a misogynist.