I was a very independent girl friend. I bought a flat first and he moved into it. I have always out earned him. I’ve always had my own hobbies and friends. But when we got married it was really odd – all of a sudden he was being very attentive/chivalrous and ‘husbandly’ and seemed to want me to be ‘wifely’. I sorted that out PDQ and we have been happily and equitably married ever since!
My father had very clear ideas about the roles of wives and mothers and they weren’t remotely compatible with my mother’s views on that! Oops. He has remarried a woman who seems to have read and obeyed The Rules. She is subservient, deferential, highly decorative and grant his every whim. In turn he adores the ground she walks on. Works for them I guess!