Are we defining independence mostly as a financial thing?
maybe I am mixing up independence with being pragmatic. I am not financially independent in that I could afford what I have on my own. But OH loves that I can dig myself out of snow drifts, drive a lorry, fix guttering and not fall into a hysterical mess in a crisis. he earns 4X what I do, that is never going to change-not sure what I could do about that. I was in a serious relationship years ago whereby my fierce financial independence became an issue in that he got fed up that we didn’t do the things he could afford that I couldn’t -I relaxed about it and learned to enjoy it.