I did once have a boyfriend who seemed happy enough to be with an independent woman. We moved in together. We were both working fulltime. After a few weeks I raised the issue of cleaning – as in I was doing far more than he was. He replied “well I am happy to help out but I draw the line at cleaning toilets!”
It didn’t last much beyond that…… I think the cultural biases are very interesting. His view was clearly that HE was helping ME with MY work, lol.