Surely there’s a spectrum? I’ve met several men, including my own brother, who can’t sustain a relationship with an equal, and have to be able to guide/teach/help the other party in some way, ie that she must always be in some way or another either inferior or dependant. Then there are men like my OH, married for 40 years to one of the most independent woman you are likely to come across. I also had friends when younger where he didn’t make a move unless she told him to. When I asked him why he put up with it, he said ‘have you thought that maybe I like it?’. He enjoyed the total lack of responsibility.
Room for all sorts, I think, people just need to find their match.